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Maybe you've never given a handjob before, you're with a new lover whose penis is different to what you're used to, or you've just never been that good at it. (Ouch!) Here are some tried and tested tips to blow your lover's mind and have them coming back for that age old pleasure again and again.
TURN UP THE HEAT
Step 1 is all about heating things up. Get your full flirt on with passionate kissing, grinding, whispering your desires and generally doing what you know is turning them on. This can take a short time or a long time. Try and relax.
TAKE A DIVE
Not all penises will show their appreciation with a full erection. Take cues from your lover's moans and groans, the closing of the eyes, and breathing patterns, or just ask if they're enjoying what you're doing. If it's all systems go, get inside their pants, wrap your hand around the shaft and apply pressure. Think: Goldilocks. Not too loose, not too tight, but somewhere in the middle.
STROKE IT
If you're not using lube, you generally won't be sliding your hand up and down the shaft (like you're applying sunscreen). Rather, you may want to use a back and forth movement, more like pulling up and pushing down. Establish a steady rhythm and read your partner's body language to check in.
SWITCH IT UP
Having set the pace, unless they're about to cum already, switch the rhythm to longer and tighter or faster and shorter. You can focus on different areas of the shaft like the frenulum and the tip. For example, you could do six short, fast strokes just on the top third of the shaft and then six longer, slower strokes along the entire shaft. Get into a groove.
HEAD TO THE FINISH LINE
When it's looking like the end is nigh, focus more on the tip and speed up your strokes. Don't stop if they're cumming, just slow things down and keep the strokes long and languid. You might like to loosen your grip as the penis becomes super sensitive in the afterglow. If they've blown over your hand, extricate yourself with all the aplomb of a MasterChef, and give yourself and your partner a wipe down.
Now that you've mastered the technique, here are some tips to bring it all together.
1. SET THE SCENE
Preparation is sexy. Knowing your partner has put thought into pleasuring you by planning and preparing makes you feel super special. Set the mood by preparing a beautiful space with dim lighting, music, clean sheets, etc. Doozy yourself up in whatever way that feels good to you. If you wear makeup, put on a strong lipstick, maybe match the fingernails or just have clean, manicured hands and nails.
2. BE ENTHUSIASTIC
The more you love the cock, the better the handjob. Think of the perfect kiss. If it's distracted and reserved instead of passionate and focused, it'll go down like a lead balloon. Ditto the penis. Worshipping that sexy AF cock is HOT!
3. GIVE ONE HELL OF A PERFORMANCE
The only difference between this handjob and them pleasuring themselves, is you! When they can feast their eyes on you they're gonna get a lot more turned on so turn it up! Look into their eyes, lick your lips, talk dirty, tell them what a gorgeous cock they have, whatever you can do to drive their mind and their body wild.
4. USE LUBE
One thing that will elevate your handjob to the next level is silicone lube. Squirt some into your hand and suddenly, a whole raft of new stroking techniques will open up to you. Now you'll be able to stroke and slide with much greater ease. If there's no lube around, saliva will suffice.
5. DON'T NEGLECT THE BALLS AND BUTT
Remember there are other erogenous zones. The balls are super sensitive and might love to be gently stroked, fondled, sucked or pulled. The perineum (the skin between the testicles and anus) responds well to firm pressure, and the anus is surrounded by millions of nerve endings so don't be afraid to explore, but always making sure you have their enthusiastic consent! You can lick and suck the nipples, lips and ears, too. I'm getting hot just thinking about it!
6. BRING TOYS TO BED
Our favourite addition to any session is sex toys (of course). Penis vibrators like the Manta or Evo can be used to mix things up a bit and masturbation sleeves add texture and grip. Some, like the Sam Neo, for added suction too. But, a finger in the backside or a full prostate massage can be the thing that blows them away to kingdom cum. Try the Erica or Hugo prostate massagers or a snug plug instead of a finger. Now there's an intense handjob, never to be forgotten.