Let me paint a picture for you. You're on a sexy summer getaway by the beach – a beach of the nude variety. Whether it's the heat in the air or the droplets beading off your lover's body, you sense a roaring wave of desire building within you: a thirst that can only be quenched in the water. But, you've never done it before and really wish you'd sorted out the myriad questions before losing reception. Before diving right in (so to speak), here are our top tips for pleasure "down where it's wetter".


What is underwater sex?

Underwater sex involves any form of sexual intimacy that occurs in the water—whether it’s in a pool, the ocean, a spa, or even a bathtub. It’s a breathtaking way to break away from the ordinary, combining intimacy with the natural fluidity of water. However, while it all sounds very dreamy, there are some practical considerations to keep in mind to make sure this experience is memorable for all the right reasons.


1. Safety first

Play it safe by the water, babes. Drowning is still a very real risk when you're playing by the water – regardless of whether it's in a sexy or standard way!


  • Basic water safety: If you aren't confident in the water (especially if it's deep, slippery, or comes with a current) assess the situation before entry. Stay where you feel comfortable. If this means lingering in the shallows, so be it. And if a floatation device is required, use one! There's nothing sexy about drowning or being caught in a rip. Same goes for bathtubs and non-slip mats.

  • Bacteria awareness: Natural water sources can contain harmful bacteria, which may increase the risk of infection. Not one wants a UTI, ever. Avoid water sources that smell suspicious, look dirty or stagnant (still/unmoving). And ensure you rinse-off thoroughly with clean water afterwards.

  • Condoms and barriers: Latex dams and condoms may be less effective in water due to friction, chlorine, or salt. If you’re relying on condoms for protection, keep this in mind and explore alternative/additional methods of protection, where applicable.

  • Temperature: Prolonged exposure to hot tubs or hot water can raise your body temperature and may lead to dizziness or dehydration. If you’re in warm water, take breaks to cool down and stay hydrated. Same goes for hot showers. If you feel lightheaded, take 5. Better yet, hit the towels.

2. What's your location?

Your setting can be the key to successful underwater intimacy. Try and resist being swept up by the moment. Instead, opt for a private location where you won’t be disturbed – or disturb others. Sure, public pools and beaches may seem exciting, but may invite unwanted attention or worse, legal consequences. Private pools, secluded beaches, or your own bathtub all make fine places for underwater fun.


Remember, natural bodies of water also come with some risks. Lakes and beaches have their own charm but often come with waves, currents, or unexpected marine life. Always assess the environment and ensure it feels comfortable and safe for both you and your partner. Before any beach day, we check out the local beach report, including water quality.


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3. Towel, toys, lube.

Yes, water is wet. But, water has a different viscosity and texture to natural lubrication, which means it can strip it away, causing some discomfort during friction or penetration. This rings even more true for chlorinated or salty water. To counter this, consider using a silicone-based lubricant that's water-resistant and lasts longer in wet environments.


If you’re really prepared and planning to incorporate sex toys, always make sure they're waterproof, not just water resistant. And while plenty of toys are marked as 'waterproof', check the product specifications before immersion (e.g. waterproof up to 10m). We recommend starting with external vibrators before dipping into internal toys. Keep in mind that vibrations can feel different underwater, and take the time to explore and adjust to these sensations.


4. Clear communication.

Underwater sex requires more communication than land-based encounters. Be open about your comfort levels, expectations, and boundaries. If you can have this conversation before entering the water, even better. The change in environment can introduce unique sensations and challenges, so being open and attentive to each other’s needs is crucial.


Additionally, water can muffle or soften sounds, making verbal communication more challenging. Establishing a non-verbal signal system – a hand gesture or shoulder tap —can help you stay connected and ensure mutual consent is maintained throughout.


5. Keep it fresh with foreplay

Underwater intimacy doesn’t have to be all about penetration. In fact, many find that focusing on foreplay enhances their experience. Rubbing, stroking and exploring areas of the body with or without toys can be a great way to amplify sensations. Even simply floating and feeling weightless can heighten a sense of closeness and sensuality with a lover.


Come on in, the water's fine.

While it may often seem very spur of the moment, underwater sex is best enjoyed with some level of consideration and preparation. Consent and communication is essential to making the experience pleasurable and safe for all parties. And with the right lube, location and and mindset, you can create a memorable and sensual adventure that deepens your connection with your lover/s.