God we love a good fingerbang! It's possibly the most underrated sex move there is and we reckon it deserves more love because when it's done right, it's freaking breathtaking. A tender technique can be breathtakingly satisfying for those who might experience pain from larger penetrative devices and penises.

THE BASICS

It's a given isn't it? Clean hands, short nails. If you love your talons too much, a tip is to stuff a cotton ball under the nail and glove up. Listen to your partner who might be communicating in moans and grunts rather that words and match your moves accordingly. Every body is different.

THE TECHNIQUE

1. GO SLOW

Slow build is the way to go. Most vulva owners need time to feel maximum pleasure. Sometimes it takes an hour to orgasm and sometimes there's no climax. As long as it's pleasurable, you're doing a great job.

2. PRESSURE THROUGH CLOTHES

This is a great way to slow build. Cup your hand over the vulva and start applying pressure like you're giving a massage. Use your middle finger to start pressing into the vagina and swirl your thumb or finger over the clitoris.

3. GET WET

Pleasure escalates with lubrication but lubrication doesn't always match pleasure. If the vagina isn't lubricating by itself, add lube or use your mouth. Tongues and fingers working together can be awe-inspiring so try using your tongue on the clit while your finger or thumb are fingering the pussy.

4. ADD AN EXTRA FINGER

When your partner is warmed up and responding well, slipping an extra finger in can be thrilling. Or go for the G-spot. It's located a couple of knuckles in and up towards the bellybutton. It responds to strong pressure and continued rhythm. Once again, check if your partner's into it.

5. THE CLIT

If your finger is inside the vagina, use a thumb or tongue to pleasure the clit. It really doesn't like being left out. For many people, this is THE BOMB.

6. NIPPLES

Nipples have direct pleasure pathways to the genitals so use your other hand to give some love to the breasts and nipples. Or suck and lick while your fingers are working down below. Deep kissing and eye gazing while you're fingering is hot.

7. RHYTHM

If you can see your partner is getting to the point of climax, don't change your rhythm. Stay with it!

8. ADD A SEX TOY

Two words. Life changing. With your fingers massaging that g-spot and a vibe on the clit, you're on your way to the Finger Bang Award. OR, an internal vibe or dildo to finish off. Yeah baby!!

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