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My partner travels all the time and I'm really horny.

So you're in one part of the house and your partner is in another. Or your partner is in Tunisia and you're in Croatia! Get an app controlled toy! Connect to each via your phone and you're ready to rock and roll. One wears/inserts/plays with the toy and the other has the control at their fingertips. Face time to really experience intimacy from afar.

 I haven't had anything new for ages...

Ooh la la!! Why not try an air pressure toy? They are completely different to vibration and the result is explosive!

This is the first time I've ever thought about buying a vibrator

An external toy is always a great first time option. Our best suggestion is the We Vibe Touch 11. Or if you think you might like something internal, try the Lelo Gigi for something very elegant and approachable. For those on a budget, we recommend the Svakom Alice.

I'm bored

Grab an app controlled, wearable Moxie. Attach it to your underwear and let your friends and lovers turn it on (and up) when you're at the library. Or just have fun on your own while you're doing the housework...

What my cat does when he's bored

Sex is painful for me

Sex should never be painful. Check with your GP and read our blog here. If it's painful around the vulva, you'll be thankful for a super soft touch. The Iroha range is amazing! Or if it's painful internally, try the Iroha Minamo or Mikazuki. If the vagina has contracted we love the She-ology vaginal dilators.

No cash

The $40.00 Essential Bullet is powerful and cheap (in a good way).

All on my own

Try all the things! Clitoral, vaginal, anal, prostate - whatever you've got, go the whole hog. Create a room just for sensual pleasure and begin your journey to sexual awakening!

I reeeally want to find my g-spot

The key is arousal, angle, pressure and rhythm. Weight can really help too. Our best suggestions for G-Spot toys are SenseVibe, Rave, Mona and Pure Wand. Try having an orgasm first to enlarge the G-Spot and adding lots of clitoral stimulation to arouse the entire region. We've got loads of info on the G-Spot here.

I've been there, done that and tried everything already

Lucky you! We can't go past the Liberator Wedge. It's not a sex toy as you know it, but changes the game entirely. Pick any of the Liberator products and become transformed. Sounds like a gimmick but it aint.

My clitoris not that sensitive

If you have numb spots around your clitoris, give the Zumio a go. It's tiny head (about the size of a pinhead) allows for pinpoint stimulation. It's a great way to isolate the sensitive spots.

I'm disabled

Wands like the Lady Bonnd are great if you need extra hand reach. Remote control toys that allow you to use your phone (or someone else to use theirs) make pesky buttons a thing of the past. Toys like the Pulse can bring a penis to orgasm without having an erection. Whatever your disability, we can find a toy to suit your needs. Just ask.

Every time I think about a sex toy, I blush with embarrassment

This is a tough one because giving yourself permission to receive pleasure is something only you can do. Pleasure is good for you and something your body is made for. Try turning off your phone, indulging in an erotic fantasy or reading some Anais Nin and using an external vibrator like Pom to begin your pleasure journey.

I've got a vibrator and I've got no idea what to do with it

Haha it's actually a very common dilemma. We've written a blog about it here.

I'm interested in anal but I'm too scared

For starters, don't do it unless you really want to. In our experience, doing it when you don't want to only ends in tears (that's from the eyes as well as tears to the sensitive tissue around the butt). Go slow, use lots of lube, push out to relax the muscle and start small - a finger or a small butt plug to begin with and go from there. We've got a whole section of arse related resources here.

We've talked about it and my boyfriend wants me to peg him (pegging is when a woman penetrates a man anally with a strap on).

We recommend the Bend Over Beginner Kit because it's great value for money and lets you experiment. You need lots of arousal, a good position like doggy, plenty of lube and the push out to relax the sphincter. Don't thrust too much and keep talking...

The good old Willie Wonka doesn't stay up like it used to

A less than firm erection can have many different causes. It's normal for erections to lessen in rigidity over time and it's normal to not be fully hard every time you have sex. Often it relates to surgery, lifestyle, stress and medication. If you've had surgery on the prostate then we recommend the Post Prostate Cancer Treatment Rehab Pump Kit. The good old cock ring however, is your best bet if you want to maintain longer and harder erections.

We both have a vulva and are interested in a toy but we don't want anything phallic. What is there for us?

If you want something internal we have loads of non-phallic shapes like the Silk, Magnum or Bouncer. If you'd like to add some vibration to the vulva, we love the Wish to use between your bodies. The Liberator Wedge will transform your oral experience by providing angle and comfort.

I've gotten so used to masturbating with my hand that a vagina doesn't get me off anymore...

The 'death grip' is a common issue among regular hand masturbators. The penis becomes so used to a hard hand that a soft vagina doesn't bring you to orgasm anymore. Try the Tenga Egg, Cup or Flip Hole for masturbating instead.

I'm really horny and I want anal, vaginal and clitoral all together

Don't we all! And there's an amazing new toy just for you!

I'm a trans man / trans woman - what products are there for me?

If you're a trans man, the Buck Angel Stroker enables you to masturbate with your growing penis. An external stimulator like the Pom is a flexible shape with a small nub at the tip and feels approachable on any part of the body. And the She-ology vaginal dilator kit is wonderful for trans women to enable slow and comfortable widening of the vaginal canal.

I love a good hot bath

And what better excuse to masturbate? Lock the door, relax and get out your vibrator. 99% of our vibrators are completely waterproof and perfect to use in the shower or spa. The Womanizer Air Pressure toys work even better under water because the seal over the clitoris is better than ever.

We're a cis couple and want something that's for both of us

The We-Vibe Sync or the budget version the Match is the original product made truly for hetero couples. It's a small C shape vibe that hugs the vulva and vagina at the same time. You can wear it alone or during PIV sex so you both feel it. And a vibrating cock ring gives both partners stimulation by vibrating through the penis and connecting with her clit on contact.

My parents are in the next room and I need something really quiet. And I'm on a budget.

Or maybe it's the kids in the next room! That question gets put to us all the time - from both parties. So if you want something external, try the Flirty Bullet. A quiet internal would be the Sassy, Amy or Lila. And the quietest rabbit would be the Elodie. And a gag is always handy:)

I've been married for 40 years and I've never had an orgasm

Maybe you've had a partner that's never brought you to orgasm but that doesn't mean you can't do it for yourself. Sometimes we rely on others for our sexual pleasure rather than ourselves. Investing in a vibrator can have a hugely positive impact on self worth and confidence that can have positive ripple effects throughout your life.

I want to try a harness and dildo to use with my girlfriend

We love the Wildhide deluxe harness because it's good looking, secure and multi-talented. You can change the rings to fit any size dildo, take the backing piece off so you can use the Share or MeToo Probe and feel comfortable and in control all at the same time. Buying a harness online can be hard. Ask yourself these questions to narrow it down.

1. Do I have a budget? - The Bend Over Tantus options are the most budget friendly and the harness is good quality and machine washable.
2. Is the aesthetic important to me? - The Fun Factory harness is very approachable and simple but maintains sturdiness and comfort. It's vegan too if that's important.
3. The brief styles like the Joque and Belle need to fit very closely which might be an issue when you can't try it on. Also you are limited to one wearer (unless you're the same size).
4. The deluxe leather buckle harness is a really versatile amazing harness that we strongly recommend. Everyone who buys it adores it!
We'd LOVE to hear any of your questions and recommendations about how, where and when to use a vibrator. Bring them on!
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